Seeing the World Through My Eyes!: Memorial Day 2015

Monday, May 25, 2015

Memorial Day 2015

As the day is coming to a close I have a whole new outlook on what it means.

I grew up in a Patriotic Family. My dad was a Navy Veteran. He wore his colors proudly.

We learned very early to respect our flag, we stand when appropriate, we remove head gear, and we are quiet. My kids also learned this very early, as well. Being involved in Boy Scouts has given them the opportunity to be part of many flag retirements, raising and lowering the flag, and presenting the colors. They make me very proud with the respect they show.

I, also, grew up understanding that my dad lost a friend in Vietnam, Danny Vandivier. He didn't talk about it often but we were aware. When I visited the Vietnam Wall in Washington DC I was able to find his name. It made the occasion more special knowing there was some connection to this man, although I never met him, I knew his parents.

Being an employee at the VA for the last 7 years has taught me even more. I have had the opportunity to work with many Veterans that have shared their stories with me. Many of the stories are amazing, while others are heartbreaking. I have learned so much though.

Mike's nephew would stop by our house from time to time and he would bring his friend with him. It took me awhile to figure out the friend he brought was one of two! The friends were twins, and generally only one was with him, Jordan or Nathan. The twins lived close to us so if they were hungry they didn't hesitate to stop by for food. It was not uncommon for them to be working on something and needed a tool. They didn't hesitate to show up at late hours to work in the garage. When Jordan joined the Marines we were very proud of him. We sent him cards and little gifts to show our appreciation. Although we didn't know him well we knew him enough to affect us when he went missing at sea on October 1, 2014. It really put everything in perspective when he was not found. Knowing someone changes things. It changes the way you think when you hear of an active duty military passing. You understand all the lives it touches.

Today Cole and I went to Sellersburg's Memorial Day Ceremony. It didn't occur to me that this was the first Memorial Day since Jordan passed until I saw his family there. His sister, Brittany, gave a very powerful speech. It made me cry (and in public). Afterwards Cole told me that was an awesome speech! It made me proud to know I have kids that understand so much. They will always understand the ultimate sacrifice. I also understand now as well. I can only imagine the suffering Jordan's family has gone through but I hope they know that people cared about Jordan and will always remember him, I am also proud of my hometown of Sellersburg and the way they remember those that have passed this Memorial Day. RIP Jordan Spears.